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Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Andrew was born in London, UK, raised in Toronto, Canada, and cavorted in Ohtawara, Japan for three years. He is married, has a son, a cat named Freddy and a dog named Shaggy (after the dudes in Scooby-Doo). He has over 35,000 comic books and a plethora of pioneer aviation-related tobacco and sports cards and likes to build LEGO dioramas. Along with writing for a monthly industrial magazine, he also writes comic books and hates writing in the 3rd person. He also hates having to write this crap that no one will ever read. He also writes an aviation blog: Pioneers Of Aviation ( https://av8rblog.wordpress.com/ ) - a cool blog on early fliers. He also wants to do more writing - for money, though. Help him out so he can stop talking in the 3rd person.

Friday, January 7, 2011

People Who Lie

Do you know what I hate?
Quite simply, people who lie.
There is no worse feeling in the world than finding out you have been lied to (actually the worst feeling is being lied to by someone you trust). You just feel dirty... like you need to take a long hot shower.
I recently had this happen to me. I actually caught the person in the lie - and they denied it. They denied it again and did so once more in the most vehement manner - so much so that you begin to doubt if you should be acting out this morality play.
But that's where the opportunity lies for you. It's where I would pull out the hammer.
The important thing when trying to capture someone in their own web of deceit is to feign ignorance. Ignorance that you know something the liar doesn't - that you are on to them. The bored look is a nice one to pull - especially if you can take the twinkle from your eyes and deaden them.
Next, it is also important you lie too - to add some obfuscation to the mix. This makes the liar confused as they thought they had dotted all the "i's" and crossed all the "t's".
The liar will then attempt to spin a few more quick lies to cover up the purported hole in their original plan. And, if you aren't careful, these new lies can seem like the truth thereby placating you.
But, as long as you have trust issues, this is where you can begin to look for ways to tighten the noose.
In a recent episode of bare-faced lying by someone I had long had serious misgivings about, I set the trap to catch them in the newer lie in order to make them stop doing something hurtful towards myself and my family. The galling thing for me was that this person had bragged to all her friends - so they knew I was being played the fool. And I was the fool... I knew the hurtful games would start up again - just not a week later!
The lie was done in order to fulfill some much needed self-gratification - at the expense of me and my family. But, while I may sort of believe that people are good deep down inside, I also know that leopards can't change their spots without a plethora of psychoanalysis sessions - and even then, I'm always going to have that nagging doubt in the back of head.
Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on you - plus I might try to make your life a living hell...
If you already have misgivings with any future endeavors with the old liar, continue to search for evidence to prove yourself right. Once you have caught someone in a lie, it continues to get easier and easier as you begin to see the liar continue to try and use maneuvers they have previous utilized.
Victory over the liar usually comes quicker and more easily than the first encounter.
Now... while victory is significant, lets not forget the childishly important Living Hell revenge factor.
The Living Hell component is the revenge factor, but it's also much more than that... it's to make a person feel so bad about their own selfishness that they will never lie again.
As an added bonus, you are allowed to feel smug at your superiority in life.
You know what I hate?
People who lie.